Grace (episode 14) returns to the studio, clearly distraught, after hearing the big announcement from last week.
We hear about Jack’s college graduation ceremony as Gavin talks about optimistic graduation speeches. Should graduation speeches preach (false?) optimism to young adults or should we be giving more realistic speeches. Maybe optimistic graduation speeches set up unrealistic expectations of the world after schooling, or maybe we’re just a bunch of jaded old people… Meanwhile, Jack recounts the recent tale of his near-death experience. We talk about what our final thoughts would be under such circumstances.
Afterwards, clearly spooked by his near-death experience, Jack asks Grace if his standards of getting married by the age of 28 is realistic.
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Welcome to season three! Join Jack and Gavin as they briefly discuss their three week vacation from the show. Gavin explains the ground rules for Jack if he wants to reclaim his former Love Guru title on the show. We then talk about why Jack has been such a bitch in recent weeks, as we discuss the cause for his loss of confidence.
Jack brings in a very heart-felt issue as he talks about how “wifey-material” girls are becoming more and more rare. Increased prevalence of the “partying lifestyle” have created a new generation of girls who don’t meet Jack’s standards for a wife. We discuss his fears on humanity’s future ability to reproduce and sustain a population.
We’ve mentioned feminism and the women’s rights movements a few times on DIU Podcast (including this episode). However, we often brush over the topic with general dates and times for when feminism arose. For example, I attributed the date to the 1960s during this episode (alluding to second-wave feminism). This is an oversimplification of the topic at hand.
Feminism finds its roots as early as the 1850s and has seen several different changes from second-wave (1960s), third-wave (1990s), and even the idea of post-feminism. At the same time, grouping all of feminist theories under one umbrella is also incorrect, as there are different ideologies.
With the American presidential elections in the books, Jack returns with a renewed admiration for his boi DT. Gavin brings in a quiz to figure out how Jack’s views align with the political candidates – is he actually a Trump supporter? Meanwhile, Jack talks about why the modern man is less likely to want to pursue marriage. The reason for this decline, according to Jack, is – to no one’s surprise – women.
Jack mentioned that federal minimum wage can be as low as $5.00 in the United States. The minimum wage is actually $7.25. However, he may have been referring to Georgia State where the minimum wage is $5.15. Employees in Georgia covered by the federal Fair Labor Standards Act will receive the federal minimum of $7.25
Jack talked about how women get half the man’s possessions upon a divorce, that is an oversimplification of the topic. Assets earned during a marriage belong to both parties equally (and thus, split equally upon divorce). Most times, the man earns higher wages because many women put their careers on hold to raise their family – this is also why women tend to receive financial support. It’s wrong to assume that women have anything to gain, financially, from a divorce. Studies have compared divorced spouses years after their seperation. In most cases, the man is doing better financially (hardly impacted by the divorce), while the woman is worse off (most likely a single-parent with reduced earning potential).
In regards to child custody, the parent who has more time for the children usually gets custody. Most times, the man has a larger focus on career. Therefore it is only logical that the man will have less time to raise children – especially with a divorce.
In Canada, we have seen an increasing popularity towards joint custody and a decrease in single-parent custody.
The 1990s saw a rapid rise in the popularity of joint custody; by the year 2000, well over one-third of children (37%) were placed in the custody of both divorcing parents. Sole father custody, on the other hand, actually declined during the period, from around 15% to under 10%. These changes meant that, by the year 2000, sole mother custody was awarded for only just over half the children concerned. (Department of Justice website)
We also talked about child support payments as well. The amount of child support paid monthly (in Canada) is dependent on the specific province, an individual’s salary, and the amount of children they have with their ex. Jack threw out $500 as an example of an acceptable monthly fee – in Ontario, a person would need to have an income of $55,200 (assuming they only have one child) in order to be required to pay $500 a month. If you have two children, the $500 requirement will be in effect if you earn $34,400. The numbers change as more children are invovled.