The One

By guest writer/ Love Guru Edmond

How do you know you’ve found the one? How can you tell that that girl sitting across from you will be the one you spend the rest of your life with? The answer is simple. You don’t know that and you can never be sure. Each person’s perspective of “the one” is different because each person’s needs and wants in a relationship is different. You can’t just simply walk down the street, see a girl/guy you like, walk up to them and tell them, “You’re the one”. Now, for those of you who are in a relationship, I’m not saying that the person you are with right now is not the one for you. Every person has the potential to be “the one”, but it is up to you to decide whether or not they are “the one” for you. What I’m going to explain in the next couple of minutes does not apply to a particular relationship, nor does it set the standard for a relationship. It is merely what, in my perspective, finding “the one” looks like and feels like.

“The One” is someone who understands you, loves you for who you are, is comfortable around you and accepts all your flaws. They will always be there to support you and push you to be better than you are. They will call you out when you’re being an idiot and kick your butt when you don’t listen. They are the ones that will always be with you, even when they’re not physically there. Even when you two get in a fight, they will still try to work things out with you because they still value the relationship. Of course, that doesn’t mean they won’t be upset at you but it could be worse. They are the ones that won’t give up on you even when you’ve given up on yourself, but most importantly, they won’t give up on the relationship. They should not just be your lover, but also your best friend. They are the ones that will make fun of you in front of your friends but at the same time will have your back when your friends fire too many shots at you. “The One” is someone special because they are your special someone.

Anyone can be a fuck buddy, a cuddle buddy or a friendly buddy. But your special someone should be more than that. Once you think you’ve found your special someone, remember: A relationship is a two-way street. Both of you must be willing to give and take in order it to work. In other words, there needs to be a compromise. And relationships aren’t just about being loyal. A strong relationship is built on the foundations of loyalty, commitment and complete honesty as well. You, yourself have to work for the relationship and earn it, because if you don’t, you may very well just lose them.

*As discussed on episode 36*